From the original post Are we ready for a talk.
Many of us doesn’t bother about the words that we spit outside may hurt others which makes them complete worry.. we stand with our own emotions. All the depressed mind can be thrown away by our own attitude towards them……..
When we make a look at their inner mind we can see a beating heart which eagerly waits for sometime to listen them from our heart. Whenever we talk to someone always understand the situation of the nearby before you spit your words to them. By doing this majority of the problems will be solved like the simple mathematics.
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From the original post Are we ready for a talk.
This has turned out to be much more about me than I even wanted it to be.
“sticks and stones may break my bones (but words will never hurt me)” Sticks and stones will hurt and may break bones but hurtful, thoughtless Words can break a Mind or Heart or even Soul.
As the author says “ Many of us doesn’t bother about the words that we spit outside may hurt others “
Our words are actually very thoughtful because in the heat of the moment we intend to say hurtful things, they may make us feel better, we hope they make the other feel worse, a sort of pay back for the way we feel.
Some of us do bother, but are in check, not inflamed with malice or pain and perhaps say nothing because anything would be worse than silent acceptance. Be where the other is, if you can, listen don’t try to tell the person that “O everyone feels like that sometimes, everyone gets angry sometimes” It is not sometime it is their time.
Never call the Fat One fat, because they may have heard it time and time again -“Fatso”, it may be overeating or Genetic, the person may be depressed, even mentally unwell. but, yes, I know it’s tempting, especially when that one is unlikeable.
The one who doesn’t walk properly – as we think they should – and seems rather slow- “Spastic” or “Spas” they may suffer with Spasticity-cerebral palsy – or seem an incompetent or uncoordinated person. Perhaps these may be the gaffs or transgressions of our childhoods, but adults also act this way. To make ourselves feel better. To raise ourselves up higher on the totemic pole of needs..to think ones self better than?
Personally speaking: I have bipolar Affective disorder and often suffer depression which I rarely mention because of the constant retort of ” everyone gets depressed sometime, do this.. do that.. you’ll get over it” But it is not like that with the chemicals in our brain, when they go awry. But it takes one to know one and only another sufferer understands the powerlessness and frustration of feeling so down and it’s mostly all about nothing – the chemicals dictate our feelings.
The platitudes both anger and hurt me as I tick off the list yet another person to be wary of, to stay away from when I feel like this.
I also have epilepsy which caused the BPAD. My mother would never accept that there was anything wrong, you see, in those days there was a stigma attached to being an Epileptic, to having epilepsy, it tended to define one much as any other chronic illness did and does, turning one into something fearsome or mouth frother. She used to refer to them as “funny turns” – never would use the term “seizure”. Someone once accused me of putting it on to get attention – as if. In short I should have said that when such ridicule comes from the ones we love and respect the most it is soul destroying, demoralizing and there seems no way to make up for the badness we are.
Whenever we talk to someone always understand the situation of the nearby before you spit your words to them. By doing this majority of the problems will be solved like the simple mathematics.
CRIMSON BLOGS
I do things what I LOVE to do
We all need to train ourselves to see, to look beyond the body before us and into their mind, to see its State, its health. To sense the beating of a sorrowful heart, a bleeding heart – after someone has spat out words of contempt, words of belittlement. Have brought down a Soul to dispair.
On many occasions sympathy, even empathy are unwelcome because of the person’s state of mind. A hug? It’s difficult to say – wear the listening ear to hear the hurting heart. Pray for them, but do not necessarilly tell them you will, unkess you know they believe because even the offer of prayer – with or for hurts when they have different resources than a Higher Power.
If we cannot think of anything good to say then it is best to say nothing.
Re-theologizing 